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The same compulsive behavior that
characterizes other addictions also is
typical of sex addiction. But these
other addictions, including drug,
alcohol and gambling dependency, involve
substances or activities with no
necessary relationship to our survival.
For example, we can live normal and
happy lives without ever gambling,
taking illicit drugs or drinking
alcohol. Even the most genetically
vulnerable person will function well
without ever being exposed to, or
provoked by, these addictive activities.
Sexual addiction is more deceptive than
most other addictions because sexual
addiction provides the illusion of
pleasure. The pleasure is escapist
oriented. When the escape ends, the
thrill of the addiction is over and the
demands of real life return with a
vengeance. Now the addict is
confronted with the decision to face
reality and gain the real pleasures of
life or flee back into shallow fantasy.
All too often the person decides
that sexual addiction is not escape and
not an addiction. Some of the
rationalizations he uses are:
"I'm not addicted. I do it to relieve
stress. All my friends do it, You're
uptight about sex, I'm not, I have more
sex drive than most people, It gives me
pleasure, It can't be an addiction if I
like it, I know guys who are sex
addicts, I'd never do what they do,
sexual addiction is a myth put out by
small minded bigots and hypocrites."
"I'm normal. You're abnormal."
Someone
close to me has a sexual addiction
You know that your husband or boyfriend
has a problem with sex. But does he know?
If he doesn't want to accept that he's
sexually addicted, what can you do? Even
if he's accepted that he has a problem,
is he willing to stop? How can you help
him stop?
Let's answer these questions one by one.
If you realize that your partner is
addicted either through addictive
masturbation, compulsive use of porn, a
fetish, phone sex or infidelity, but he
doesn't want to accept it, here's what
to do:
Start by getting him to take our test.
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Here are a few more pointers about what
the partner can do to help her husband
or boyfriend get control over sexual
addiction:
Don't take on his burden. The job of
overcoming the addiction is his, not
yours.
Be realistic. Some sexual addictions
can be overcome relatively quickly.
Others take time. Give
him praise.
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Don't take the blame for his sex
addiction. Many times the partner's
first reaction when discovering a
sexual addiction is, "What's wrong
with me? Why doesn't he want to be
with me? Why does he want them
instead of me?" You did not cause
his sexually addictive behavior. He
caused it. Self help is the way to
overcome it. Sex help in our sexual
recovery program is what we provide.
There is HOPE as
long as you are willing to do what it
takes.
We are here to help you live a better
life.
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Sex Addiction
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